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Thursday, January 28, 2010

How to make an Aida happy

Ok, not just an Aida, this applies to all females. Think women are complicated? Think again, here you will discover a conventional way of making a woman happy, the magic rule of 3As, Affection, Attention, and Appreciation. If you give the affection your girl yearns for, the attention she needs and the appreciation she deserves, you'll be surprised of how you can revolutionize your relationship. You can juice out the endorphin of your spouse.

Appreciation is not all about buying flowers & saying thank you but as little as to listen to her stories and laugh at her jokes. In harsh word: giving a damn about what she's doing. Blur? Let me give you one example, how different a woman and a man can be.

Man A: How's the wedding? 
Man B: It's great, beautiful.

Woman A: How's the wedding, now tell me!
Woman B: The wedding is gorgeous. The bride is beautiful. I love her sequined dress. Her pearly tiara made her looked like a princess. The groom was dashing, he looked better shaved up. I think their choice of golden beige couldn't get any better! But you know what, the groom got his shoe lace loosen just now, but no one realized! And I love the color of the bride's lipstick, it's coral, you know, almost nude!I think it's number 404.

Now, you get the picture how men and women are different. To comprehend this concept is the key to appreciate your spouse. She tried to connect to you emotionally through this every detail. So, next time, when your girl tells you how bad is her day, how smelly her boss is, her paper clip is broken, or she is 2 minutes late for work today than usual, share and be open enough to listen to her. Participate in her dragging, crooked to the point story.

To compliment or acknowledge her in front of your family & friends is the most actual level of appreciation. Showing the world that she is your pride is the most priceless acknowledgment you could ever done to her. Try.

Women by nature are attention cravers. When they want attention, they mean UNDIVIDED ATTENTION. What does it mean by undivided attention? Your position! Put the paper down, put away your psp, turn off (not mute) the TV, put away your cellphone, make eye contact, be responsive to all what she's saying.

Avoid taking chances! Invest your time to listen to her, and put aside whatever you are doing. And if you really can't make it, tell her honestly you need to do something and will attend to her, undividedly in just a moment. Do not attempt to MULTITASK. Even on the phone, women just can tell it when you are doing something else. Magical creature she is! :)


This is the most powerful tool to a happy relationship. Affection is a short term for LOVE and RESPECT. Affection is all about tones and proximity. Affectionate tones melt women's heart. What is affectionate tone? It's a verbal tone full of love and care. Anger and threatening free! Try this when they are sulking. Walaah! You have no idea how it works in no time!

Proximity. Being close. Allow her to be in your space bubble. Space bubble is a minimum gap you are comfortable to be around other people. To open your space bubble for her is to be affectionate. Being close brings to touch. Touch is the most effective way to end an argument or a fight. Touch makes her feel belong to you undoubtedly.

So, get to your soul mate now and try to practice this 3As if you are honestly in love with her. You'll be stunned of how immediate the results will be. Just bear in mind, you just can not fake these. Women can just tell. They are magical, remember?

Last but not least

"Obviously, a woman doesn’t want to feel like a demeaned, belittled, invaluable, throw-away possession. Nor does she want to feel like she’s obsessively controlled and dictated to like some weak-minded imbecile. But, she very much wants to feel like a prized, valuable, meaningful, sought-after lady – one who is CLAIMED by her man!She wants her man to think of her as his chosen one, his first-pick, his one and only lady."

For real-life example of this rule (here) and (here)

14 chemistry(s):

ninie said...

hie, i am here 4 the 1st time. I have a story for you, I ever married to a very rich guy & good looking but he made me as his possesion, not his wife. he wouldnt listen to me but all he does is to buy me things. I cannot stand and asked for divorce. Now i am married to an ordinary guy and i feel really2 appreciated. I love my new lover so much and I feel more happier. Money is not everything after all right?

nice tips there!


PurPLe LaDy said...

great and i love on the wedding example! i always nagged kekasyfi hati bout that. whenever he accompanied me to any wedding, i want to stay a little bit longer to observe everything but he'll make a face later. grrr!

Aida The Pink Goddess said...

ninie:sometimes, we got to wait long to meet mr right! congrats to u

eppa: men will never u/stand.hhehe, but if they truly u/stand, they'll go byond sweet. hee we girls love details! hihi

Hayatul Akma @ Ima said...

Even on the phone, women just can tell it when you are doing something else. Magical creature she is! :)<-- OMG!!! this is soooooooo true! i am really good at this

Aida The Pink Goddess said...

ima: sorry link awak tanpa kebenaran..hehe yup, i write this based on experience and expectation.hehe

mayang said...

very well composed! you put your heart in this entry!

"To compliment or acknowledge her in front of your family & friends is the most actual level of appreciation."

Couldnt agree more on this!

keep writing doll!

Aida The Pink Goddess said...

hi mayang! thanks ! happy reading!

Hayatul Akma @ Ima said...

haha thanks for linking me!! =)

Aida The Pink Goddess said...

thanks to YOU my dear! he. epitome ya!

NaNa said...

so sweet the examples tu.. :) anyway, I agree about undivided attention tu, sakit hati je bila lelaki do not fully attend to us!

Aida The Pink Goddess said...

nana: couldnt agree more!

anna darling said...

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Anonymous said...

miss aida, i superlove this post, boleh pinjam? =) anyway, hai =)

Aida The Pink Goddess said...

hai zn, boleh, no prob amik jer =)

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